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Attitude De Determiner

Zig Ziglar "Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude". 

When you change your attitude, you will change your world. 

“You need to keep a good attitude". You need a check-up from the neck up. These are more than popular phrases; they reveal an invisible awareness of the importance of your mood birthed by your chosen focus.

Many people with wrong attitudes do not even realize they possess them. They use angry words, sarcasm or cynicism to create a desired response from others. They use their attitude to intimidate and rule over those under their authority.

Each of us often develops our attitudes from childhood, right or wrong. Understanding the impact of our attitude on ourselves and others, enables us to develop positive steps toward appropriate and responsible behaviour.

Your attitude is more powerful than your gifts and talents. Attitude is the powerful force that attracts others toward you or repels them away from you. Many gifted people never taste the rewards of their abilities and creativity because their attitude makes them undesirable to be near. Your attitude is the force that determines whether you multiply or decrease. Your attitude determines your access. 

Attitude is the power tool God uses to help you avoid and overcome the negative circumstances in your life. Your attitude will affect your ability. That is why the Apostle Paul learned to be content and happy, regardless of the state or situation around him. His attitude of thanksgiving made the difference. - Philip 4:11.

To Billy Graham, "When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost". 

Your attitude will determine your Altitude. 

A Kiss From Success Breath Team.‎ 

How to Set Goals: 10 Steps to Stay Focused.

I always do this at the beginning of every year: Instructs my followers on goal setting/on how to conquer the New Year thru planning. On the eve of the new I ask a friend "What re your plans for the New Year"? The replied "What do you want me to be planing about?" “Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.” — Stephen A. Brennan .

For most people, creating goals is easy! The execution and application is the struggle. As Diana Scharf Hunt says, “Goals are just dreams with a deadline!” Everyone has dreams, but successful people turn them into goals that they accomplish. Without sounding religious, the Bible says in Luke 14:28 "For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate (plan) the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it?"  In order to ensure you reach the finish line with your goals achieved, here are 10 steps to help you move from dreamer to doer:

1. Utilize the SMART Goal Approach

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit. – Aristotle

SMART goals have been utilized for years, because they work. Make sure your goals are:

Specific:
A specific goal will usually answer the five Ws (What, Why, Who, Where, and Which). Writing specific objectives fleshes out your goal so you can easily identify what you want to accomplish.

Measurable:
If your goal isn’t measurable, there will be no way to know if you’re making progress. You need to address the question, “How will I know when this is accomplished?”

Attainable:
Your goal must be something that you can realistically attain. I would love to fly like a bird by jumping off a cliff with no parachute, but gravity would have the last word in that interaction. However, learning to jump off a cliff with a hang glider is more realistic.

Relevant:
If your goal doesn’t mean anything to you, then it isn’t worth pursuing. Tie your goals to your deeper values to give them more meaning. Make sure you are behind the goal 100% so you stay motivated to achieve it.

Time Bound:
You need to have a deadline. Otherwise it’s just a dream that never becomes reality. Putting down a deadline makes you more committed to bringing it to fruition.

2. Write your goals down and display them!

“I hear and I forget; I see and I remember; I write and I understand.” – Chinese Proverb

A large portion of your goal is already accomplished as soon as you write it down. A study showed that among people who wrote down their goals with actionable commitments that they put into weekly progress reports and shared with friends, 76% accomplished them. This is in comparison to a control group who were just asked to think about their goals. In this group, only 43% accomplished their objectives. Writing down your goals makes them real; they are tangible words on paper, not an ethereal dream in your mind.


3. Break big goals into smaller ones!

“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!”

It’s the same for big goals! Break them down into manageable weekly and daily actionable bites. If you don’t, you can sometimes lose motivation if the goal seems far away or too big to accomplish.

4. Make an action plan and follow it!

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin

The best gift you can give yourself is a well thought-out action plan. Take time to organize all of your smaller daily and weekly goals in one place so you can easily check your progress or send it to others to hold you accountable.

5. Do your goals as early in the day as possible!

“The sun has not caught me in bed in fifty years.” – Thomas Jefferson

If you study successful people, you will find that most of the time they do more before the sun rises than the rest of the world does in a day. Get your goals done first thing in the morning to feel like you’ve started your day right. That way, you will always find time to do them.

6. Tell others your goals to keep you accountable!

“Accountability breeds response-ability.” – Steven R. Covey

When you know someone is going to check your progress, it lights a fire under you to follow through. Find a good friend or mentor who will take on the role of motivator and occasional butt-kicker. You will come to value this service immensely when you see your efficiency and effectiveness improve.

7. Make sure your goals excite you!

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein

Your goals should be a source of joy in your life. They should be one of the main reasons you get out of bed in the morning. If your goals don’t excite you, then you need to re-evaluate them.

8. Use positive language in your goals!

“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.” – Jim Rohn

Setting and accomplishing your goals changes you. You become a positive person who is more excited about life. Make sure your goals reflect this. Don’t say, “My goal is not to mess up today.” Instead your goal could say, “My goal is to excel today in my career by doing X, Y, and Z.” Do you see the language difference? No one can get passionate about going through the day trying to avoid something negative. Instead, turn it around so you spend your day chasing and catching success.

9. Set goals in multiple life areas!

“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo

Don’t just reserve your goals for your career. You should challenge yourself to set fitness goals, finance goals, family goals, relationships goals, educational goals, spiritual goals, health goals, and adventure goals. Every area of your life that you value should have a goal to help you improve upon it.

10. Set performance vs. outcome goals!

“The ultimate reason for setting goals is to entice you to become the person it takes to achieve them.” – Jim Rohn

Many things are outside your control. For example, you may have an adventure goal to climb Mount Everest. You follow an action plan and train daily. You reach the moment when you are ready to ascend the mountain’s icy slopes with your team. Suddenly, a huge storm turns you back. The weather was out of your sphere of influence. You met all of your performance goals. Just because the outcome didn’t happen this time does not mean you failed. You were prepared. Life just happened and you weren’t able to climb the mountain – this time. However, regardless of the outcome, you became the person who could climb your mountain should life open the door. That’s the deeper endeavor. When you set your goals, don’t say, “My goal is to climb Mt. Everest by January 2017.” Instead, say, “My goal is to be completely prepared to climb Mt. Everest by January 2017, and to do all that is within my power to reach the top.” The first goal is only attainable if everything works in your favor. The second goal is completely attainable, as it depends solely on you.

“In the long run, men hit only what they aim at. Therefore, they had better aim at something high.” – Henry David Thoreau

So what are you aiming for? If your answer is nothing, then you probably won’t like what you get out of this life. Instead of simply drifting along reacting to what life brings you, take proactive steps to go out and create the future you want. While we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can control ourselves by following goals that bring out our passion for life.
A Kiss From Benson Adima.

The Butterfly (Struggles)

To Lady Oprah Winfrey, "Where there is no struggle, there is no strength".

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Until it suddenly stopped making any progress, and looked like it was stuck.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man didn’t think anything of it, and sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. But that didn’t happen. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with tiny wings and a swollen body.

Despite the kind heart of the man, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was out of the cocoon.

Listen to this; Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others.

The Bible book of James 5:10 says: "And the God of all grace, who did call you to His eternal glory in Christ Jesus, after you have suffered for a short time, will Himself make you perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you".

Dare To Take Risk

In the words of Mark Frost, an American novelist, screenwriter, director and film producer, best known as a writer for the television series Hill Street Blues and the co-creator of the television series Twin Peaks: "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body. But rather, to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming…. Wow! What a ride!"

Too many people “play it safe.” This is the playground of mediocrity. It’s where average people live. They colour inside the lines, and always play by the rules. They fear the unknown, and rarely – if ever – venture outside the boundaries. People who “play it safe” are predictable. Their life is run by rules and routine. Their actions are often dictated by the opinions of others. This is the crowd that fights to keep things the same…

Risk-takers, however, are a different breed. They live in the realm of possibility and greatness. They are not afraid to live beyond the boundaries and to colour outside the lines. To them, there is no such thing as failure; only experiments that didn’t work! Risk-takers are marked by a sense of adventure and passion. They care little for the accolades of the crowd. They are more focused on squeezing everything they can out of every moment. They are not afraid to “boldly go where no one has gone before.”

Think about it. Try naming one historical figure that made a difference by playing it safe and being average. The vast majority of successful people are remembered for the difference that they made in their lifetime. And that difference required them to take risks and challenge the status quo. We are inspired by people who go beyond the norm and push the boundaries of possibility. Mediocrity, on the other hand, does not inspire. Nor does it lead to greatness. Success, however you define it, will elude you unless you are willing to push the limits you have placed on yourself, and that others have placed on you.

The Orville brothers would have never made their historical flight if they had listened to the naysayers. Henry Ford would have never invented the automobile if he had paid attention to his critics. David would have never defeated Goliath if he had allowed his own family to discourage him. The list goes on and on. Every major breakthrough in history – in business, science, medicine, sports, etc. – is the result of an individual who took a risk and refused to play it safe. Successful people understand this. Their innovation is the result of their adventurous spirit. They invent, achieve, surpass, and succeed because they dare to live beyond the realm of normal.

Betty Botter: The solution Mantra

One day, Betty Botter wanted to bake a cake. She bought some cheap butter to bake it. But something was wrong with the butter.

“This butter is bitter," said Betty Botter as she tasted the butter.

“If I put it in my cake batter, it will make the batter bitter. But if I put a bit of better butter that would make my batter better."

So, she went off to buy a better butter than her bitter butter. She mixed a bit of better butter into her cake batter. She tasted the batter and was happy that the batter was not bitter.

She adopted the best way to solve the problem. Because there will be always one.

If you have a problem, always think of the best way to solve it.
"Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don't have any problems, you don't get any seeds." - Norman Vincent Peale (1898 - 1993), American Author.
Isaiah 41:21, Produce your cause, saith the LORD; bring forth your strong reasons. 'In other words bring your problems let's find solutions...'

Till we come your way again, Success Breath is reaching you life and direct from the altar of Skyhigh Motivational,  and Benson Adima remains your in-house Motivational Speaker.

Betty Botter is a tongue-twister written by Carolyn Wells. It was originally titled "The Butter Betty Bought." By the middle of the 20th century, it had become part of the Mother Goose collection of nursery rhymes. 

Power Of Positive Thinking

The Power of Positive thinking is in the daily practice of positive thinking.

Simply trying to think positive when things go wrong is ineffective and often won't help. Instead, trying to apply positive thinking in a desperate attempt to change a negative situation after it has happened will likely backfire and lead to more frustration.

The real power of positive thinking comes from it's daily repetition. You need to practice and apply positive thinking everyday in order to reap the rewards of the power of positive thinking.

This means that you have to change the way you see things, change your words and regularly change what you think. Positive thinking requires that you eliminate negative thinking and this has to be done on a daily basis.

You see everyday we have thousands and thousands of thoughts. Most of them are meaningless and will have little or no impact on you. But amid all those thoughts you also have a number of negative thoughts and these are the thoughts that work against you and don't allow you to succeed. The negative thoughts that are tied to negative beliefs need to change. So if you repeatedly say something negative or have a negative phrase that you often say among friends then you likely have a negative belief tied to that negative thought.



So replace those negative thoughts that are tied to negative or limiting beliefs immediately. The best way to to do that is to replace them with positive thoughts and you have to do this everyday.

At first you'll be able to do this because you're paying attention to what your thinking and saying. But as time goes on you'll forget because the mind will go back to what it knows and will call upon those negative thoughts again and again. That's why you need to repeatedly change those negative thoughts as often as possible.

The real power of positive thinking comes when you apply positive thinking automatically. That happens when you automatically have positive thoughts, when you no longer have constant negative statements and when your mind is filled with more positive thoughts than negative thoughts.

Once you have positive thinking in place you begin to attract positive situations, positive people and you begin to take positive action so that you enjoy a more successful, happier and rewarding life.

Those who apply positive thinking are naturally more optimistic and upbeat. They enjoy life and they bounce back from setbacks quicker than negative thinkers.

If you're a chronic negative thinker then trying to apply positive thinking won't come easy. You'll have some setbacks and you'll want to continue thinking negative thoughts - that's only because that's what the mind knows. To change this you need to constantly change your negative thinking to positive.

So everyday catch yourself thinking. Track your thoughts. Change the negative thoughts to positive thoughts. Do this everyday. The more often you do this exercises the sooner your mind will move from being negative to being positive. This is how you begin to develop positive thinking that will lead to greater success.
Example
One teacher had two disciples. One of them had an auspicious positive vision and he always sought out good points from anything he observed while the other one had an inauspicious vision and always found out some negative or faults from his observations.

One day, the teacher went out to a park with both the disciples and while wandering in the garden, they came across a mango tree from which some ripe and juicy mangoes were hanging. On seeing this, the teacher thought to test both of his students. Therefore, he called them beside him and asked them to observe the tree full of mangoes very carefully. Then, he asked the first one, "My dear child, what do you think of this mango tree?"

The disciple answered instantly, "Teacher, in spite of people hitting this tree with stones, it gives us sweet and juicy mangoes. It feels hurt but still it gives us fruits. I wish all human beings learn this important message from the mango tree - to share their belongings even if they have to suffer for this."



After that, the teacher asked the same question to the other disciple, "My dear child, what do you think of this mango tree?" The student aggressively answered, "Teacher, this mango tree is no good and will not give mangoes by itself but only when we hit it with stones and sticks. Therefore, we should hit it hard to get sweet mangoes from it. That is the only way to get these mangoes. It is also clear from this tree that in order to get good fruits from others, we need to be violent and only when we become violent, then and only then will we get happiness."

Teacher was delighted with the answer given by the first student because he had an admirable vision and  appreciated the tree with positive vision while on the other hand the second student's answer dissatisfied him because he saw the tree with negative vision and insisted on learning the wrong way of getting fruits in life. He showered his blessings on the first disciple whole-heartedly.

So friends, even though the situation is same, it still depends on how we interpret it, which shows our mental status and the way we think of others. Let's take an example of lovely roses that have thorns on them. A person with an inauspicious vision would say, "Oh God! Even these beautiful roses have thorns on them", while a person with an auspicious vision would say, "Wow! What a wonderful creation of nature - a beautiful rose amongst thorns."
Always develop a vision that can find out something good even from a bad thing or person. And by doing so, slowly your mind and intellect will become pure day by day.

DEVELOP A POSITIVE VISION AND ALWAYS FIND OUT SOMETHING GOOD FROM EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE.

Moral: Positivity is the biggest strength in life. Success follows who are positive in all situations. Many great celebrities had one or more weaknesses but they were always positive for self, others and situations and hence became successful by overcoming all sorts of obstacles. A little poison of negativity about others in our mind can destroy our relationships with them. Everybody has definitely something that can be appreciated, we only need to apply positive vision and appreciate others.