ECONOMIC CANCER OF THE BONE

This is the first time I’m going to be talking about this deadly and the most dangerous diseases in human crave for success. Endorse in it slightly and you might as well forget the future because is going to forget you. Complaining, crying, whining, gripping, and grumbling a Bible word called MURMURING and what I would hashtag in modern English as Unfiltered Rumination on Negative Experiences, somebody called it the Corrupter of Israel, even if you brand it Success Parasite you will not be far from being right. Spend five minutes complaining and you have wasted five years.  And you may began what is known as Economic Cancer of the Bone. Surely they will soon hurt you up in your financial desert and it will let you shock in the dust of your own regret. 

                                                   

Grumbling and complaining is one thing we don’t get too concerned about these days. I mean everybody grumbles about something, right? Husbands and wives complain about each other. Kids tell each other how terrible their folks are. Christians grumble about one another – even about their leaders! In Africa one of the things we complain about most is our government and in Nigeria my Mother land, one out every family complain about government and the leadership every day. If you don’t think is bad, ask the Children of Israel in the Old Testament, They had a long history of grumbling and complaining and the resulting consequence was FATAL. You can read about the misery it brought them in the first five books of the Old Testament. E.g. “So, all the congregation lifted up their voices and cried, and the people wept that night. And all the children of Israel complained against Moses and Aaron, and the whole congregation said to them, 'If only we had died in the land of Egypt! Or if only we had died in this wilderness! Why has the Lord brought us to this land to fall by the sword, that our wives and children should become victims? Would it not be better for us to return to Egypt?" Numbers 14:1-3. 

You remember the story? The good news is that children of Israel, the former slaves were heading to the Promised Land. The bad news is that they never got there. Reason, from day one they started to complain: They gripe about the waters, they unfilterly rumination on the negative weather. They whine, cry and gripe about the food. They murmur against the leadership. They gripe and whine because it was too far, too cold, too hard, too difficult, and too miserable, I mean they whine and cry for years. And God said I have had, trip cancelled or something like that. The story says they died in the desert and never got to the Promised Land. Which I think means two things:

1.       Endorse in complaining long enough and you get your future cancelled or effected with cancer

2.      Even God himself can only take so much. Listen to this, “God abandons only those who abandon themselves, and whoever has the courage to shut up his sorrow within his own heart is stronger to fight against it than he who complains.” - George Sand

    

Research shows that most people complain, murmur and whine once a minute during a typical conversation. Complaining is tempting because it feels good, but like many other things that are enjoyable-such as smoking or eating a good breakfast-complaining isn’t good for you. Your brain loves efficiency and doesn’t like to work any harder than it has to. So, when you repeat a behaviour, such as complaining, murmuring and grumbling your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information. This makes it much easier to repeat that behaviour in the future-so easy, in fact, that you might not even realize you’re doing it.

Listen to this, not only is the complaining dangerous to your physical health, also Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus-an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s. Before you check your dictionary ‘Alzheimer’ is a degenerative brain disease of unknown cause that result in the gradual loss of memory, speech, movement etc.

More also, it’s not just you... Since human beings are inherently social, our brains naturally and unconsciously mimic the moods of those around us, particularly people we spend a great deal of time with. This process is called neuronal mirroring, and it’s the basis for our ability to feel empathy. The flip side, however, is that it makes complaining a lot like smoking-you don’t have to do it yourself to suffer the ill effects. You need to be cautious about spending time with people who complain about everything. Complainers want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with complainers. A focus on not complaining would create a happier and more positive environment. This leads to everyone being a bit more fulfilled with every day of their lives, not needing to or being tempted to engage in negative discussion around any given topic.

The Solution to Complaining/Murmuring (Economic Cancer of the Bone)

There are two things you can do when you feel the need to complain:

One is to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. That is, when you feel like complaining, shift your attention to something that you’re grateful for. Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Study conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood and energy and substantially less anxiety due to lower cortisol levels. Any time you experience negative or pessimistic thoughts, use this as a cue to shift gears and to think about something positive. With time, a positive attitude will become a way of life.

The second thing you can do-and only when you have something that is truly worth complaining about-to engage in solution-oriented complaining (Panacea). Think of it as complaining with a purpose. Solution-oriented complaining should do the following:

·         Have a clear purpose. Before complaining, know what outcome you’re looking for. If you can’t identify a purpose, there’s a good chance you just want to complain for its own sake, and that’s the kind of complaining you should nip in the bud.

·         Start with something positive. It may seem counter intuitive to start a complaint with a compliment, but starting with a positive helps keep the other person from getting defensive. For example, before launching into a complaint about poor customer service, you could say something like, “I’ve been a customer for a very long time and have always been thrilled with your service...”

·         Be specific. When you’re complaining it’s not a good time to dredge up every minor annoyance from the past 20 years. Just address the current situation and be as specific as possible. Instead of saying, “Your employee was rude to me,” describe specifically what the employee did that seemed rude.

·         End on a positive. If you end your complaint with, “I’m never shopping here again,” the person who’s listening has no motivation to act on your complaint. In that case, you’re just venting, or complaining with no purpose other than to complain. Instead, restate your purpose, as well as your hope that the desired result can be achieved, for example, “I’d like to work this out so that we can keep our business relationship intact.”

Bringing It All Together, I mean in Conclusion, Just like smoking, drinking too much, and lying on the couch watching TV all day, complaining is bad for you. Put my advice to use, and you'll reap the physical, mental, and performance benefits that come with a positive frame of mind. If you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you'd be surprised by how well things can work out... Complaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won't make us happier. Therefore don’t complain, work harder

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